Judgement: The Root of Evil (Notes from 01/29/14 – Convo with J. Braxton)

28 03 2014

No.  It’s not money.

To find the root of evil, you have to find the origin in our existence.

In Genesis, there were two trees of note.

The Tree of Life and the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil.

The fruit of the tree of life, was life (eternal).

The fruit of the tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is Judgement.

Good and Evil is the Noun element.  Judgement is the Verb element.


Why did we focus on one tree but not the other?  If we focused on “Our” tree, and not “God’s” tree, we would still be in paradise.

Bring that sentence into 2014.

If we focused more on LIFE (Living/Love/Joy) and not JUDGEMENT, our world would BE PARADISE.

How many wars would we have if we all loved each other as we loved ourselves?  (Follow Christ’s Commandments)

In every area of human relation that brings strife, judgement is present.  Rid yourself of judgement and enjoy a new experience called life.  (Enlightenment)


Expectation vs Expectancy

19 03 2013

Notes that I wrote in regards to a great lesson learned about how we relate to God and our fellow man.

Expectation vs Expectancy

Rules vs Action


Reference books:  The Shack by William P Young; The Bible


Expectation:  The act or state of expecting.  Looking forward or anticipating.  This leads to a set of actions that are Expected.  You can only be appeased or disappointed when you live by Expectation.  In order to please someone, they can’t expect the action.


Example:  A spouse expects flowers for Valentine’s Day. If you get flowers, the spouse will be appeased.  If you don’t get flowers, the spouse will be disappointed.  Anything provided above and beyond one’s expectation leads to pleasing the recipient.


Side note: Lower your expectations so you can increase your potential for pleasure.  When you expect little, you appreciate everything you get.


Expectancy:  The prospect of a future interest or  possession.


A noun becomes a rule.

A verb becomes an action (Verb:  action word)


-ancy: suffix used to denote state of quality.  Indicating an action.  (-ance; -ancy; -ence)


Nouns are dead.

Verbs/Actions are alive and full of life.


Example:  I have love.(dead)  Vs  I Love! (Alive)


When we say God is love, we need to think outside the constraints of a dead noun.  We have to see it as a verb.  His love is a verb, for it is constant and full of life on its own!  A noun is limited to itself.  A verb/action is limitless, especially in the context of God.  God is limitless!  God is a verb!


A bird is not defined by its shape, but by what it does.  (action)  Neither are we.  A tree is not defined by shape, but by what it produces. (action)


(I have to spend time with you today  vs   The anticipation of spending time with you.)


Rule vs Action.  There is a different sentiment between an expectation and having expectancy.


Expecation does not require me to act.  Only the other person has to act in order to live up to the expectation.  This is not a relationship.  This is a dictatorship.  (This is what I deserve.)


Expectancy requires that now I become an active part of the solution.  No judgments, just faith and excited waiting on what will happen next.


Living with Expectancy, no expectations frees us from disappointment, worry and doubt.  It also allows us to have hope, belief and joy abundantly.


Expectancy allows us to be hopeful and open to whatever comes our way.  This is how God’s love works.  Always open and hopeful of a better future.


Expectation is performance based and revolves around responsibilities.  This is the basis for Guilt, shame and is used to control others.


A living expectancy gives the power and opens the way for others ot respond without being constrained to an expectation, rule or responsibility.


The more we lean on expectations, the greater our capacity to judge others, the further we are from God.


Relationships, Marriage, and What YOU Bring to the Table

22 04 2012

***For those that care to watch what spawned this Blog, you can right here:

Holy Matrimony Part 4


So I went to church today and got a great message that I needed to share/jot down, if not for anyone else, at least for myself.  This may not be completely in Blog format.  This is from a series of sermons on the subject of Marriage that have been preached by Zion Church’ s Pastor Keith Battle.  The title of the series is Holy Matrimony, and this was the fourth message of the series.  If you want to get more information on Zion Church, feel free to go to http://www.zionchurcholine.com  They even have the sermons online.  They usually put them online Wednesdays.  When it is archived, I will post the link to it.

These were parts that I took away from it.  I didn’t write every point because some resonated more with me than others.

– Dont have your woman invest her time with you and then let someone else reap the fruits that she sowed.

– Stay true to your promise.  It wasn’t only to her.  It was also to God.

– We as humans often want things we can’t have and have things we take for granted.

– If you want to grow spiritually, recognize that it will happen tremendously through your marriage.

– Great way to sum things up –  If you want to serve Jesus, stay single.  If you want to BE like Jesus, get married.

– Keep in mind that the more difficult your spouse is, the greater potential you have for spiritual growth.

– Marriage puts a magnifying glass on every flaw and dysfunction of self.

– Your spouse can tap into every personal dysfunction within you.

– As humans, we both have weaknesses and flaws.

– Often times Differences can be judged as weaknesses because that is not how we are. (Arguing vs being silent) “I must be right because this is how I do it.”

– When you focus on something about your spouse you want to change, it grows but you don’t.  So you stay stuck and immature and don’t grow.

– When I focus on SELF, God can humble me and work on ME, and I grow.  If I grow, even if she doesn’t change, I may be able to grow and mature enough to be able to accept her as she is, even if she never changes.

– I can still make requests. Just stay away from demands.

– Requests bring opportunities for gifts.  Demands require payment.  Payment feels WAY DIFFERENT than Gifts.

– Don’t Ride Negative thoughts about a spouse.  Forgive.  Let It Go (TD Jakes)

– Grow up.  Stop saying (I’m not that type of person to do X, Y, & Z even though she is requesting it.  It may take your relationship to the next level.  How are you going to want your relationship to go to the next level and not expect yourself to have to grow either?  That is like expecting a promotion at work, but you have not done a thing to warrant that increase of money, position, and responsibility.

What is funny about this, is that I am not married, yet I see how this very same advice can be used and used effectively in ANY relationship.

(Notes) -v How Regret is Spawned…

6 07 2011

Judges chapter 14- story of Samson

Following the flesh only leads to regret

Regret comes when you lower your standards.

God has the highest of standards – keep God’s standards

Do not shun wise councel

Understand, there is a difference between “hating” and wise councel

Do not forget your promise to God

There will always be signs that come up that you need to change.

What signs are trying to steer us away from regret?

What signs have I ignored?

God is everywhere and speaks through any and everyone.  Make sure you hear the message.

A conversation between God and Man

19 04 2010

M: Why can’t I just have what I want.

G: Because you wont want what you have.