Judgement: The Root of Evil (Notes from 01/29/14 – Convo with J. Braxton)

28 03 2014

No.  It’s not money.

To find the root of evil, you have to find the origin in our existence.

In Genesis, there were two trees of note.

The Tree of Life and the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil.

The fruit of the tree of life, was life (eternal).

The fruit of the tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil is Judgement.

Good and Evil is the Noun element.  Judgement is the Verb element.


Why did we focus on one tree but not the other?  If we focused on “Our” tree, and not “God’s” tree, we would still be in paradise.

Bring that sentence into 2014.

If we focused more on LIFE (Living/Love/Joy) and not JUDGEMENT, our world would BE PARADISE.

How many wars would we have if we all loved each other as we loved ourselves?  (Follow Christ’s Commandments)

In every area of human relation that brings strife, judgement is present.  Rid yourself of judgement and enjoy a new experience called life.  (Enlightenment)


Love – Spread The Word Without Judging

31 12 2013
I am a follower of Christ and thus by default I love all people.  I am also a human and thus by default I am terribly flawed.  I believe the flaws inherently in us is part of the reason why we are told to avoid judging people.  We are also put here to be in community with one another and to form relationships with one another.  I believe that this is another reason why we are told to avoid judging each other.  Once someone places  themselves in a position to judge another, there is an automatic disconnect between the two.  There is no longer a community aspect, but it turns into a caste system of the elite showing the lowly the error of their ways.  If we as humans are equally flawed, then who are we to judge another.
There are plenty of reasons to avoid the judgment of others.  With that said, there is a huge difference between calling something a sin and judging people.  At times the appearance may be similar, but there remains a vast difference.  Now, the difference does have to be distinct and one’s intention has to be apparent to avoid the confusion.  As followers of Christ, the last thing we want to do it condemn someone “in Jesus name,” especially when His whole mission and purpose was to redeem us and save us from a greater judgment.  At the same time, we want to let the truth be told so that everyone is very clear on what our Lord expects.  Nobody wants to be told that they are a bad person, or doing wrong, especially when their personal moral system tells them different.
So how do we do this?  It seems like everyone that attempts this will be called out as judgmental or anti-whatever.  Just recently Phil Robertson from the show Duck Dynasty was called out as being anti-gay for trying to do this.  Numerous church leaders, athletes, musicians, movie stars, and celebrities have been called out as being anti-whatever for their stances and/or statements on subjects such as homosexuality, marriage, racism, gender equality, etc.  Well, I am not here to defend anyone’s decision, words, or actions.  I do have suggestions for how to better get one’s point across if you happen to have conflicting opinions or beliefs.  The key is in how to communicate these beliefs.
Before I get into the communication of these beliefs, first of all, we have to truly think about the issue and do some soul searching on our own thoughts and feelings on the subject.  The better you understand your own perspective, the better you can communicate it and the better you can deal with it.  Keep in mind, you are human.  You can change.  You can learn.  You can grow.  An example would be, if you have a problem with gay people, ask yourself, “what about them bothers me?”  Answer the question and ask other questions about that subject.
“Is it because it’s a sin?  Do I react the same way to other sins?  Lying is a sin too.  Why do I not react the same way?  If the sin of it isn’t the real reason, what is?”
Ask yourself until it gets awkward.  Go in depth so you have a truly full understanding of the root of your problem.  If you cannot be this brutally honest with yourself, then you have no right whatsoever to judge anyone.  By asking all these questions you are judging yourself as you should, and if you can’t stand up to it, keep your lips shut about others.  Once you get to the root of the issue, deal with it.  Learn acceptance.  This is necessary because you are living in a world where diversity is prevailant and will not go away any time soon, and if you are a Christian, your Lord requires it of you.  If you need counciling to do this, so be it.  Take this seriously, for if you don’t learn acceptance, they could be sinners all day, and you will be joining them in the sin category too, once again making you both equal in God’s sight.
Ok, so after you are done with this stage (it should take a while) then you should default to rules of engagement with people.  This is known as Jesus’ commandment to us as His followers.  (John Chapter 13 verses 33-35)  The passage basically says love one another as I loved you.  This is not limited to your friends and families, but goes to your enemies, strangers, and everyone.  When I say this, I mean that in all your conversations you have, default to love.  Make sure that if nothing else comes across in your speech, that the concept of love is primary.  If you are asked about if something is a sin, be straight forward on what the bible says, and immediately cover that statement with a statement about how God loves you and how YOU love them too.  Reach out to the people you are speaking about.  Have them in your community.  Embrace them as your own to show that love.  It’s really hard for someone to be seen as a racist or a bigot if they surround themselves with the very people that they are speaking about.  If you give your time and money to help the people you are speaking about, then who can really say you are uneducated about them or hate them?  Who hates someone so much that they are going to put all their life savings in a charity to help that person they hate?  Does that even make sense?
By doing these actions, you will quickly find yourself and your community growing.  You will make new friendships and alliances.  You will learn more about others and others will learn more about you.  People will appreciate you for what you do and eventually for who you are, and the same will occur for you.  But notice where all of this began?  You had to first have a GOOD understanding of yourself.  Please keep in mind that this has to be an ongoing process.  You have to keep sharpening the knife and understand who you are and how that stacks up with who God wants you to be.  From there, the rest is following his commandments and growing relationships with EVERYONE since we are supposed to love everyone.
Yes, this is MUCH harder to do than to say.  I am no expert at this, but I see this as a method that can help, and if I have something that can help you, why not share it with you?  Peace be with you my friend.

Expectation vs Expectancy

19 03 2013

Notes that I wrote in regards to a great lesson learned about how we relate to God and our fellow man.

Expectation vs Expectancy

Rules vs Action


Reference books:  The Shack by William P Young; The Bible


Expectation:  The act or state of expecting.  Looking forward or anticipating.  This leads to a set of actions that are Expected.  You can only be appeased or disappointed when you live by Expectation.  In order to please someone, they can’t expect the action.


Example:  A spouse expects flowers for Valentine’s Day. If you get flowers, the spouse will be appeased.  If you don’t get flowers, the spouse will be disappointed.  Anything provided above and beyond one’s expectation leads to pleasing the recipient.


Side note: Lower your expectations so you can increase your potential for pleasure.  When you expect little, you appreciate everything you get.


Expectancy:  The prospect of a future interest or  possession.


A noun becomes a rule.

A verb becomes an action (Verb:  action word)


-ancy: suffix used to denote state of quality.  Indicating an action.  (-ance; -ancy; -ence)


Nouns are dead.

Verbs/Actions are alive and full of life.


Example:  I have love.(dead)  Vs  I Love! (Alive)


When we say God is love, we need to think outside the constraints of a dead noun.  We have to see it as a verb.  His love is a verb, for it is constant and full of life on its own!  A noun is limited to itself.  A verb/action is limitless, especially in the context of God.  God is limitless!  God is a verb!


A bird is not defined by its shape, but by what it does.  (action)  Neither are we.  A tree is not defined by shape, but by what it produces. (action)


(I have to spend time with you today  vs   The anticipation of spending time with you.)


Rule vs Action.  There is a different sentiment between an expectation and having expectancy.


Expecation does not require me to act.  Only the other person has to act in order to live up to the expectation.  This is not a relationship.  This is a dictatorship.  (This is what I deserve.)


Expectancy requires that now I become an active part of the solution.  No judgments, just faith and excited waiting on what will happen next.


Living with Expectancy, no expectations frees us from disappointment, worry and doubt.  It also allows us to have hope, belief and joy abundantly.


Expectancy allows us to be hopeful and open to whatever comes our way.  This is how God’s love works.  Always open and hopeful of a better future.


Expectation is performance based and revolves around responsibilities.  This is the basis for Guilt, shame and is used to control others.


A living expectancy gives the power and opens the way for others ot respond without being constrained to an expectation, rule or responsibility.


The more we lean on expectations, the greater our capacity to judge others, the further we are from God.


Advice For Singles

26 02 2013

I did not create this.  I am not a councilor.  I got this information from a message called How To Love by Pastor James Marshall of Zion Church.


He had a special message for singles and these were part of the notes I took.  These notes are for me.  I need help with this.  If this helps you, great!  If you have questions, I can only answer from the perspective of what I learned.  Pastor Marshall may be able to help you out further.


1 Corinthians Chapter 7

Genesis  Chapter 2 vs 7 to end.

John Chapter 15 verse 13

8 Points for Singles:

1. Health before happiness.  Heal First.  Me Time.

2. Purpose before process.

A. Why am I here?

B. Why am I pursuing marriage?

C. Define who you are looking for.

3. Dont underestimate the power of friendships.  Its easier to develop romantic feelings for someone you have a friendship with, than to develop a friendship with someone you have romantic feelings for.

4. Create a healthy pace for the relationship and maintain the pace.  Go through at least 4 seasons with your interest at each stage.  (1 year as friends.  1 year as a couple.)

5. Never look like something you aren’t.  Honor God.  If you aren’t married, don’t look like you are.  If you are married, don’t look like you aren’t.

6. Outside of marriage, sex is a setup for failure.  Sex was in part created to reunite the emotional bond between a married couple.  The other part was for procreation.  And always remember, Sex will always accomplish its purpose, whether you like it or not.  Whether you are married or not.  And if you are not married, you will experience this.

7. Make sure contentment is not based on another human being.  (General Life Contentment.)

8. Exhaust all possible resources before making a lifetime commitment.

Relationships, Marriage, and What YOU Bring to the Table

22 04 2012

***For those that care to watch what spawned this Blog, you can right here:

Holy Matrimony Part 4


So I went to church today and got a great message that I needed to share/jot down, if not for anyone else, at least for myself.  This may not be completely in Blog format.  This is from a series of sermons on the subject of Marriage that have been preached by Zion Church’ s Pastor Keith Battle.  The title of the series is Holy Matrimony, and this was the fourth message of the series.  If you want to get more information on Zion Church, feel free to go to http://www.zionchurcholine.com  They even have the sermons online.  They usually put them online Wednesdays.  When it is archived, I will post the link to it.

These were parts that I took away from it.  I didn’t write every point because some resonated more with me than others.

– Dont have your woman invest her time with you and then let someone else reap the fruits that she sowed.

– Stay true to your promise.  It wasn’t only to her.  It was also to God.

– We as humans often want things we can’t have and have things we take for granted.

– If you want to grow spiritually, recognize that it will happen tremendously through your marriage.

– Great way to sum things up –  If you want to serve Jesus, stay single.  If you want to BE like Jesus, get married.

– Keep in mind that the more difficult your spouse is, the greater potential you have for spiritual growth.

– Marriage puts a magnifying glass on every flaw and dysfunction of self.

– Your spouse can tap into every personal dysfunction within you.

– As humans, we both have weaknesses and flaws.

– Often times Differences can be judged as weaknesses because that is not how we are. (Arguing vs being silent) “I must be right because this is how I do it.”

– When you focus on something about your spouse you want to change, it grows but you don’t.  So you stay stuck and immature and don’t grow.

– When I focus on SELF, God can humble me and work on ME, and I grow.  If I grow, even if she doesn’t change, I may be able to grow and mature enough to be able to accept her as she is, even if she never changes.

– I can still make requests. Just stay away from demands.

– Requests bring opportunities for gifts.  Demands require payment.  Payment feels WAY DIFFERENT than Gifts.

– Don’t Ride Negative thoughts about a spouse.  Forgive.  Let It Go (TD Jakes)

– Grow up.  Stop saying (I’m not that type of person to do X, Y, & Z even though she is requesting it.  It may take your relationship to the next level.  How are you going to want your relationship to go to the next level and not expect yourself to have to grow either?  That is like expecting a promotion at work, but you have not done a thing to warrant that increase of money, position, and responsibility.

What is funny about this, is that I am not married, yet I see how this very same advice can be used and used effectively in ANY relationship.

(Notes) – Dealing With A Broken Soul (Part 2) – 7 Steps to Grieving Process

19 07 2011

In order to grow, no matter whatever is bothering us, we must go through a grieving process.

The issue is never starting it, it is COMPLETING IT.

Complete the process and grow

incomplete process = being STUCK

7 Steps:

1. Name your pain. – What happened?  What did it cost you?  You can’t rebuke everything is Jesus name.  Some things are placed in your face for you to work through to get you to a better place.

2. Grieve your loss.  You can’t heal without it.

3.  Try on your offenders shoes.  Everything about them.  Deep meditation on this point.

4. What pearls came out of your pain?  You become better because of the pain you went through.

5.  Journal your feelings.  Get the pain out of your system.  Even if you have to write a letter to the person who offended you and not send it, do it for the sake of getting the pain out of your system.

6. Release your offender.  Give up the right for revenge or anger.  Untie the knot.

7.  Reach out to your offender.  Forgiveness heals.


(Notes) – Dealing With A Broken Soul (Part 1)

19 07 2011

re: Stuck seminar – 2008

Past Hurt causes one to focus on the pain, and not God

It Follows one

Emotionally Unhealthy

Makes one Unproductive

God can heal your past and bless your future

Your history need not hinder your future

God can allow us to see the past but forget the pain

Read Genesis Chapter 41

Manasseh – (God made me forget all my misery)

Ephraim – (God has mad me fruitful in the land of my affliction)

Forget and be fruitful

The solution is growth

Growth happens in the valleys, not on the mountain tops

You cant grow if its everyone elses fault

victims never grow