Honorable Actions

23 03 2013

The nice thing is not always the right thing.  You can spare someone’s feelings and ruin their life.  Sometimes you have to do the thing that will hurt them for the short term in order to save them from a future of greater pain.  I know that many people may agree in theory, but in practice, they either find it extremely difficult to accomplish, or they just plain change their mind at that time.  Honorable action prevents future hurt.  The problem comes about in a world lacking honor, such action is seen as being done with malevolent spirit.  Perhaps I will come back to this subject again in the future.  I had to plant the seed for this conversation with this entry. 


Expectation vs Expectancy

19 03 2013

Notes that I wrote in regards to a great lesson learned about how we relate to God and our fellow man.

Expectation vs Expectancy

Rules vs Action


Reference books:  The Shack by William P Young; The Bible


Expectation:  The act or state of expecting.  Looking forward or anticipating.  This leads to a set of actions that are Expected.  You can only be appeased or disappointed when you live by Expectation.  In order to please someone, they can’t expect the action.


Example:  A spouse expects flowers for Valentine’s Day. If you get flowers, the spouse will be appeased.  If you don’t get flowers, the spouse will be disappointed.  Anything provided above and beyond one’s expectation leads to pleasing the recipient.


Side note: Lower your expectations so you can increase your potential for pleasure.  When you expect little, you appreciate everything you get.


Expectancy:  The prospect of a future interest or  possession.


A noun becomes a rule.

A verb becomes an action (Verb:  action word)


-ancy: suffix used to denote state of quality.  Indicating an action.  (-ance; -ancy; -ence)


Nouns are dead.

Verbs/Actions are alive and full of life.


Example:  I have love.(dead)  Vs  I Love! (Alive)


When we say God is love, we need to think outside the constraints of a dead noun.  We have to see it as a verb.  His love is a verb, for it is constant and full of life on its own!  A noun is limited to itself.  A verb/action is limitless, especially in the context of God.  God is limitless!  God is a verb!


A bird is not defined by its shape, but by what it does.  (action)  Neither are we.  A tree is not defined by shape, but by what it produces. (action)


(I have to spend time with you today  vs   The anticipation of spending time with you.)


Rule vs Action.  There is a different sentiment between an expectation and having expectancy.


Expecation does not require me to act.  Only the other person has to act in order to live up to the expectation.  This is not a relationship.  This is a dictatorship.  (This is what I deserve.)


Expectancy requires that now I become an active part of the solution.  No judgments, just faith and excited waiting on what will happen next.


Living with Expectancy, no expectations frees us from disappointment, worry and doubt.  It also allows us to have hope, belief and joy abundantly.


Expectancy allows us to be hopeful and open to whatever comes our way.  This is how God’s love works.  Always open and hopeful of a better future.


Expectation is performance based and revolves around responsibilities.  This is the basis for Guilt, shame and is used to control others.


A living expectancy gives the power and opens the way for others ot respond without being constrained to an expectation, rule or responsibility.


The more we lean on expectations, the greater our capacity to judge others, the further we are from God.