GROUP think – Yang

31 03 2010

The best thing about the internet is the number of opinions that come your way and how people can teach you whether or not they know you.  So currently the yin side of Group Think is being portrayed.

That last sentence should tell you what you need to know.

The yang side is a word that is lacking in meaning in this nation we live in, although thrown about.  It is called Community.  Regardless of what people want to believe, community shapes us into who we are and what we believe.  Whether it’s through strength, absurdity or complete lack of existing, our community is responsible for our being and you can see this clear as day depending on what neighborhood you visit, live in or drive through.

With community comes a standard of life, interaction, and ethics that are adhered to.  The main thought behind this is to ensure that the community flourishes.  Those that do not adhere to this are often ostracized or reprimanded in some way, shape or form.  Depending on the community it could be passive or very aggressive.

This is not necessarily a bad thing.  This is not necessarily a good thing.  This is just a thing.  Good or Bad depends solely on You and how YOU were raised.  Many Americans will agree that the many freedoms we embrace should be universal.  Other cultures do not think this way, and in reality the best (and worst) thing we could do is to respect their individuality.  Eventually along this line of thought, the question comes up of “what is the difference between respecting one’s cultural differences, and allowing atrocities to occur?  Where does that line blur?”  This is a question which I have thought about after reading Yurugu by Marimba Ani and Ishmael by Daniel Quinn.

I shall save this discussion for another day, but definitely worth going into.  (I will go further into this)

My suggestion for you (due to my upbringing) is to think for yourself.  :o)


group THINK – Pay Attention

31 03 2010

In light of the new video to the song “Window Seat,” by Erykah Badu I have reflected greatly on the subject Ms. Badu brings to the forefront.

Group Think.

As defined by Wikipedia, Groupthink is, “a type of thought exhibited by group members who try to minimize conflict and reach consensus without critically testing, analyzing, and evaluating ideas. Individual creativity, uniqueness, and independent thinking are lost in the pursuit of group cohesiveness, as are the advantages of reasonable balance in choice and thought that might normally be obtained by making decisions as a group.[1] During groupthink, members of the group avoid promoting viewpoints outside the comfort zone of consensus thinking. A variety of motives for this may exist such as a desire to avoid being seen as foolish, or a desire to avoid embarrassing or angering other members of the group. Groupthink may cause groups to make hasty, irrational decisions, where individual doubts are set aside, for fear of upsetting the group’s balance. The term is frequently used pejoratively, with hindsight.”

If one would like to see group think in action, all one has to do is pay attention to the backlash to Ms. Badu’s video.  Not only was this video filmed in Guerilla fashion without any permits from the city, but it gives a nod to the assassination of character to anyone who does not fall in line with group think in the very same place where John F Kennedy was assassinated. (for what many so called “conspiracy theorists” would say are similar reasons.)

Ms. Badu touched a sensitive spot for me.  I have recently been a victim of Group Think.  I find that to be a curious term, being that there is really very little thought in it.  Those that actually take the time to think find themselves by themselves and typically do one of two things; they get uncomfortable and submit in an attempt to become comfortable again, or they face ostracism.  Only the strong can stand up and flourish without the group.  The group needs each other to increase.  Those that increase without the group are incredible.  Pain, suffering and hard work is the only true way to gain strength and this is true on all levels.  (Physically, Mentally, Spiritually)

Erykah, I salute you for putting yourself in harms way (physically, mentally, monetarily, legally) to SHOW US, how this concept works, to inspire us all to drop the group, and THINK.


Course of Study (and practice)

22 03 2010

After 33 years on this planet there is one thing that remains constant.  I am still learning.  I am forever grateful for my teachers, past, present and future.  They are numerous  and diverse and most of them do not know they are my teacher.  I thank God for them regardless.  I would never be where I have been without them, and I will never get where I need to go without them in my past.

Some of my teachers actually contradict each other.  One recent teacher taught me that I need to extract all warmth from my heart and live for myself, for nobody else will live for me.  This sounded like a good lesson worth taking to the grave.  Sure it would lead to a solitary life with no emotional attachment to anyone or anything, but hey, at least I won’t get hurt ever again.  I was willing to take it.  Another teacher gave me some other advice.  Instead of changing me, tweak me.  One keeps all that I have learned and gives me a foundation to work from.  The other demolishes everything I have built in 33 years and leaves me at square one.  One is easier than the other.  One is a give up tactic.

I put more weight in one lesson over another.  Some teachers actually invest more time and energy in me than others.  I don’t know why.  I don’t know what I have done to deserve such a teacher.  I don’t know if I do deserve such a teacher.  I will give the glory to God.  The other teachers that surround this one are incredible too and I feel like I was blessed, cursed, and fortunate to have been given such teachers.  I can only hope that one day I can give as much as I have received.

When you are gone…

17 03 2010

I am inspired by many.  Thank you.  You are constantly on my mind.

When you are gone…

How will you be remembered?

Will you be known as the nice guy?  (Were you just being PC?)

Will you be known as the hard worker who strived for excellence?  (What were you overcompensating for?)

Will you be known as the ornery soul who struggled with existence?  (How much did you really love those around you?)

Will you be known as the misunderstood beauty who had it all and nothing at the same time?  (How lonely were you?)

Will you be known as a good soldier?  (Did you ever do for self?)

Will you be known as a good person who tried to bring out the best in everyone?  (Why did you do it?)

Will you be known for the car you drove?  (Who was your company?)

Will you be known for the clothes you wore?  (Was your company genuine?)

Will you be known for the minds you drove?  (Where did you drive them?)

Will you be known as the guy who made everyone laugh?  (Were you really crying inside?)

Will you be known as the genius with infinite potential?  (Did you really just want a simpler existence?)

Will you be known as a good Christian/Muslim/Jew/Budhist?  (What were you frightened of?)

Will anyone care?  (Who’s heart did you touch?)

Will your legacy live on?  (Who’s soul did you touch?)


13 03 2010

It makes  sense and it doesn’t make sense.

There is no balance, and eventually the natural balance will make “us” imbalanced.

Smith is right as far as “us” are concerned.

There is no cure… only to sever.

The meek shall inherit.

I do not belong here.

I can not leave yet.

Not until He tells me to.

That does not mean I want to stay.

Until then, find comfort in…?

There are so few that know…

Do you? No…

Go ahead and ask…

Makeup… Really?

9 03 2010

Originally posted Sunday, October 22, 2006

I seriously can not stand to see makeup on women…  I think it is the most hideous thing in the world for a woman to put that shit on… regardless of if you are blessed with beauty or not, it makes things worse.

I have seen beautiful women look torn up ugly due to that shit…  To every woman out there reading this, please do yourself a favor…  dont wear that shit…  you DO  NOT NEED IT…  I dont understand guys that think that shit is attactive…  shyt… you wanna see attractive, look through my friends list an everyone without makeup…  The funny thing about it is that some of the women on there have pictures with and without and you can SEE the difference…

Plus that shit can cause cancer due to clogging pores and preventing your skin from breathing…  dead it please…

March 9, 2010 addition:

I still stand by my words I wrote 4 years ago.  However, I now know why women wear that shit.  Its typically either for themselves or for other women.  They usually feel as though they have flaws with their appearance that they want to cover up with this temporary face paint.  Its a security issue.  Its almost like walking outside with underwear on under your clothes.  That may be a stretch, but for those that wear it, that is how they feel.  They prefer to wear it than not.

What cracks me up is how the people that are typically most interested in the people wearing it, could care less about it.  I know I speak for MANY men when I say, I would prefer to see what you look like without makeup on.  I don’t want to see some “beauty” with makeup and then wake up in the morning to Mothra or King Ghidra.

Whatever.  I know the science behind it all.  Chalk another one up to being brain washed by society.  Yeah, YOU don’t want to admit it, but it is what it is.  Bottom line is that you look better without that garbage.  This is a message to ALL the women I know.  Whether I am interested in you an acquaintance, friend, family, or prospect to be Mrs Wellington.  (Even those I don’t like at all.)

That shit almost looks Demonic…

Then again, go figure, the people I dated in the past, all represented themselves in their respective natural beauty.

Think Outside YOUR Box…

5 03 2010

I love where I grew up.  I love how it molded me.  I love the fact that I can think outside of my own being and understand someone else’s point of view, lifestyle, and culture without judging them and saying they are wrong.  Too many people are so incredibly inundated by their own way of life that they cannot for one second understand someone else’s.  These same people often wonder why they find themselves by themselves.  If you refuse to relate to other people, other people will not relate to you.

I recently had a conversation with a friend about some people from a different culture and the interactions this person had with them.  The interaction from the standpoint of my friend was disrespectful and prevented future interactions with the “foreigners.”  Fortunately I was familiar with the culture of the people my friend had a problem with.  I understood the misunderstanding and explained it in detail to my friend in hopes to shed some light on the situation, regardless of whether my friend’s opinion was going to be changed or not.  In reality the actions of the “foreigners” from their cultural standpoint was highly respectful and courteous.  The problem is that in American culture, such actions are not seen as respectful.  Had the “foreigners” have lived in America for an extended period of time with a fair amount of exposure to American Culture, they would have surely adjusted their interactions with people.

I saw things quite clear and explained them clearly.  My friend was not receptive to my explanation at all.  It was quite disheartening.  It was the equivalent of hearing a redneck say, “…If you are going to move to my country, SPEAK AMERICAN!”  Lord knows this type of ignorance still exists, but to hear it from someone I hold in a high light is saddening.

Can you for one second imagine what it feels like to be in a strange place where you don’t know the language, nor the customs.  Nobody will help you, and every action you make seems to make people more and more hostile towards you.  Why can’t you get off your high horse for one second and show your civility.  Teach them.  Assist them.  Show them to avoid the way of folly.  Castigating them to be an untouchable is hardly something that anyone of a proper upbringing should do, especially those that claim a religious faith such as Christianity, Islam or Judaism.  How can you reach out and touch another life, if you locked yourself inside your box?